Chitrakshi keeping us busy....

Chitrakshi turned 9 months few days back and already started running...yet holding something, most of the time it's sofa or couch. Now, she started crying for people who are standing and who tends to go out. She feels strongly now that the outer world is beautiful :-)

It's a joy to see her crawling then finding some support to stand and then she pulls her up, run along the furniture till the furniture length..recently, she started jumping from one sofa to another one keeping the balance and it was sheer joy to watch her doing that. She herself understands balancing acts well without being told (Is there any well to help her understand, anyway).

I went through an article on parents.com [http://www.parents.com/baby/development/walking/help-baby-learn-to-walk/#page=4]

      As Baby becomes stronger and more curious, she will start pulling herself up

with the support of furniture, or mom and dad. This is when you can start

working on balance and getting her familiar with the standing position.

                            Age: 8 months

                                 What you can do: Help Baby pull herself up then show her how to bend
                                 her knees to get back down to the floor. This will help ease her falls when
                                 she starts taking steps on her own.

We went through this but don't remember If I tried much to achieve something as mentioned. Babies find their way out, some times earlier or later.

"God's creation works perfectly fine"  !!

Chitrakshi turning 8 months....

She is growing and watching her grow nothing less than a wonder. After I return home, she give a big smile, almost giggling...raise her petite hands. Another great experience is her learning about where and how to look for an yelling or noisy object. She turns and then turn her head to one direction and then she realise her failure, she turns opposite. She has started observing people and is very comfortable with Bhaiya Bhabhi and others in family.if called upon, she tries to move fast towards me.....God bless her ! A bundle of happiness in my "Angan".

8th Nov...Little angel arrived !!

A long wait and quite unrestful towards end, ended. We visited Dr S B on 5th Nov and she suggested the dates to be 15th to 19th...in between or a wk later. K was restless, as said and was very much in mood of going somewhere....thought a lot and finally desired to go to Noida Shilpotsava 2011 which was just started.

DB and BS also joined us so it made a group visiting Noida Shilpotsava this year...on the third day of it. There were a lot of shops although few still vacant. We tried to give enough rest to K., at the same time she took interest in roaming around and visiting all the stalls. There were very good materials e.g. carpets, wood crafts, small scale jewllery items and various kind of garments for ladies and gents. We had lunch at various food stalls which offered good enough food.

We returned back around 8:00 PM as there was not much interesting that day....I preferred always classical music or light music and hip hop kind of stuff didn't interest me/us.  Next day, K. felt like seeing the doctor, I got tensed while in office. By chance, DB was also not available and there were less people in office so managing a car was difficult. Thanx to DS, in front, who helped to take her to Dr. Next 72 hrs. and in fact, next day in the morning, K. needed to be taken to hospital. We prepared comparatively well....I was slightly worried...tensed and drove along with Bhaiya and bhabhi. K's struggle started and finally our little angel arrived at 12:10 PM. I cleared my concerns regarding K., she is OK, fine and we all were happy. There were presence of Richa bhabhi, Bhabhi ji (Sunil Ji) and Shukla aunti.

ALMIGHTY GRACE, We were supported by a good Doctor, who helped us hell alot in supporting K. during her greatest painful period :-(


ALMIGHTY GRACE, we are blessed with our little angel....named Chikki, Chuku, baby.......

ALMIGHTY GRACE, K. is fine and it was a normal delivery.

ALMIGHTY GRACE, A new member in our family has arrived and everyone is HAPPY.

GOD Bless our Little ANGEL !!

Shona went back....

Shona came here and days had been wonderful. Although I was busy but whenever I was home and she was around, I felt great. K and Shefali also enjoyred a lot and then B3 kept on her love to Ludo.
Overall, past 10-12 days had been with a lot with Shona. Shona woke up little late in the morning but whenever she woke up, she was cheerful and mostly greeted with Good Morning. Then her many dialogues e.g. "I'm angry with you" or "I'm upset with you" kept me mesmerized. The way she used these tantrum (Am I right using this word using for 3 yrs. girl) against us kept us laughing for hours. She has developed a bad habit of not eating at all. B3 really struggled feeding her as she was really not eating up at all. Many times, I got angry and scolded her slightly and she reacted "I'm angry with you". She kept talking about Pokoyo and many other cartoon characters and some times, I was not at all able to understand it.

Missing you Shona !!

7 habits of highly effective people....II

The 3 habits (Proactive, Begin with the end in mind and Put first things first) surround moving from dependence to independence -

(I find it beautyfully presented on wikipedia  http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Seven_Habits_of_Highly_Effective_People......)

Habit 1: Be Proactive

Taking initiative in life by realizing your decisions (and how they align with life's principles) are the primary determining factor for effectiveness in your life. Taking responsibility for your choices and the subsequent consequences that follow. Getting things done.

Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind

Self-discover and clarify your deeply important character values and life goals. Envision the ideal characteristics for each of your various roles and relationships in life. It is always better to try and foresee situations. Predict outcomes and then think of worst case scenarios, will help come up with informed decisions.

Habit 3: Put First Things First

Planning, prioritizing, and executing your week's tasks based on importance rather than urgency. Evaluating if your efforts exemplify your desired character values, propel you towards goals, and enrich the roles and relationships elaborated in Habit 2. Prioritization is the key to the success of any business or in any walk of life. Being proactive rather than being reactive leads to success.

The next three habits have to do with Interdependence (i.e. working with others)

Habit 4: Think Win-Win

Genuinely striving for mutually beneficial solutions or agreements in your relationships. Valuing and respecting people by understanding a "win" for all is ultimately a better long-term resolution than if only one person in the situation had gotten his way. Everyone will feel inclusive and involved. A better environment of trust and loyalty establishes.

Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, then to be understood

Using empathetic listening to be genuinely influenced by a person, which compels them to reciprocate the listening and take an open mind to being influenced by you. This creates an atmosphere of caring, respect, and positive problem solving. This can also avoid situations where the problem does not actually exist and its just a matter of misunderstanding. It is always said that listen double to what you talk since we have 2 ears to listen and one mouth to talk.

Habit 6: Synergize

Combining the strengths of people through positive teamwork, so as to achieve goals no one person could have done alone. How to yield the most prolific performance out of a group of people through encouraging meaningful contribution, and modeling inspirational and supportive leadership. Everyone is a master of something and not everything. Positive potentials can be put together to achieve better results.

The last habit relates to self-rejuvenation;

Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw

The balancing and renewal of your resources, energy, and health to create a sustainable long-term effective lifestyle. This is constant improvement of one's self in order to be a better human being and to sharpen one's skills in order to achieve better results.

References : 7 habits of highly effective people

To start with, it's important to start with Habit 1 obviously. Look for opportunities where one can be proactive and don't be afraid in participation. Being proactive is all about carrying yourself a bit forward and act. E.g. consider the physical activities requirements for better health. Many a times, we decide to start jogging, going to zym or some other activities and with some initiation, do it for some day and then just stop it. Improve this habit, Initiate to continue and practice in longer run.
 
It's all about plan, thinkful planning and "begin with the end in mind", once planned don't think over it again. Act and force yourself to take actions, no more thinking anymore.
 
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7 Habits of highly effective people....

I got an opportunity to attend this training and felt fantastic after 3 days of this training. Previously, I had tried to read the book many times although never succeed to complete. Whenever I tried to read it previously, I found it really good but the only thing was that it was too much theory although there had been instances of experiences in abundance.

http://www.franklincovey.com/tc/solutions/the-7-habits-solutions/the-7-habits-of-highly-effective-people-signature-program

The instructor was expert on behavioral science and started with the Habit 1 : ProActive and went on to Habit 7: Sharpen the saw and in the training kept spell bound many a times. It was good to see that over a period of time, we unknowingly have been following many practices and it was good to correlate them to the theory. I think, the book is a great combination of great messages of vedas, upnishads and also a ton of points from Geeta. At the same time, the presentation of the material is great and respectfully, all credit to Stephen Covey for providing us so great a material.

A good introduction of all the habits are -

Another very good discussion with Stephen Covey -

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U8LM4C1l70U&NR=1&wl_token=HonqezIF5x1kczE04H1InsJCW7B8MTMwNDE4ODA2NUAxMzA0MTAxNjY1&wl_id=U8LM4C1l70U

Few points gathered from the trainings -

• "One is product of one's own choices over a period of time"
• "Think Win-win while working with relationship, clients, customers...It'll surely help in long run"
• "Seek to understand, then to be understood" A very critical point which emphasize the power of listening. In fact, emphatic listening is the keyword.
• "Work with Important and Urgent matrix". Working always in rush mode i.e. always in Important and Urgent domain will drain one out very easily.
• "Set priorities"
• "Come out of the paradigm of I"

Abida.....great ghazal

Aadami aadami se milata hai,
Dil magar kam kisi se milta hai !

Bhool jata hoon sab sitam usake
wo kuch iss sadagi se milata hai !

Dil magar kam kisi se milta hai !

Aaj kya baat hai ki phoolon ka,
Rang teri hansi se milta hai !

Dil magar kam kisi se milta hai !

Rooh ko bhi maza mohabbat ka 

Dil ki hum sayagi se milata hai !

Dil magar kam kisi se milta hai !